RESET YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM
RECLAIM YOUR LIFE
C H I L L C O N S U L T I N G
neuro-affective
trauma-informed
psychotherapy
if you could think your way out of suffering you would have already...right?
Trauma is a thief - stealing connection, confidence & emotional safety.
Exposure to developmental, chronic or shock events - that were too much, too soon & for too long - create trauma loops of reactivity, unwanted patterns & subconscious drives that can diminish identity, perception, health, behaviour, relationships & performance.
Symptoms are not 'who your are'.
They are the body's alarm signals originating from your deeper nervous system in OVERWHELM.
Go beyond the limits of traditional talking therapy.
Access clinical tools based on the latest developments in traumatic stress & the neuroscience of well-being.
The rational brain (mindset & will) does not control reactivity. Nor can it return you to inner safety.
Work with the true architect of distress, your deeper emotional brain, the vagus nerve & the ANS (Autonomic Nervous System) that controls it.
Speak the somatic language of the ANS & transform how your nervous system reacts to the past & reimagines your future.
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What's your go to?
All of us use a blend of emotional brain defenses to navigate & overcome stressors in our daily lives. A reaction is neither good nor bad. They are simply a survival menu of ways our stress response can look, sound or feel, whilst trying to keep us safe. Trauma loops & their symptoms originate when defending yourself is either blocked or circumstances force you to stay in them too long.
The question isn't do you defend yourself, it is, could you or are you still stuck there?
flight
When life gets stressful I notice I'm......
Nervous, scared, worried & can't sit still
Internally I feel......
Unsettled, restless, panicky, fearful & off balance
My body feels......
Nauseous, sweaty, on edge, racing heart, dizzy
My pattern in life is......
Busy at all costs, avoid depth, overthinking, superficial socialising
My 'go-to' thought is & emotions are......
"I don't feel ok, something's really wrong " - worried, lost, uneasy
fight
When life gets stressful I notice I'm......
Angry, controlling, critical & argumentative
Internally I feel......
Tense, agitated, unsettled, furious & superior
My body feels......
Tight, hot, clenched jaw, heavy, burning
My pattern in life is......
Blaming others, extreme mood swings, being bossy, sulking
My 'go to' thought is & emotions are ......
"Everyone is so annoying" - anger, bitter, melancholic
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When life gets stressful I notice I'm....
Extra quiet, make myself smaller, lose my voice
I sometimes feel.....
Sad, worried, wronged, desperate to connect
My body feels......
Constricted, twisted, small, slow, stiff, weak
My pattern in life is ......
Appease others, take the blame, over help others at my cost
My 'go to' thought is & emotions are......
"If I do this, I won't get hurt" - sorry, sad, afraid
fawn
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freeze
When life gets stressful I notice I......
Pull back, withdraw, avoid people & places
I sometimes feel.....
Distant, spacey, mute & wish I was somewhere else
My body feels......
Floaty, numb, dense, cold, slow, airy - out of my body
My pattern in life is....
Not being present, joyless, observational, unreachable
My 'go to' thought is & emotions are......
"I don't care what happens" - desolate, empty, apathetic
Get yourself back - access clinical tools to repair trauma loops in the deeper emotional brain needing to complete.
Understand & nuture your uniquely configured nervous system — the key to liberate body, mind & soul.
The key to 'well-being', is not the absence of struggle. That is unavoidable. It is the capacity of your emotional brain, Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) & vagus nerve, to quickly return you from the charge of sympathetic defense to the relative emotional safety of parasympathetic calm, rest & digest. Ideally we should feel both the triumph of meeting a challenge, enduring hardship or surviving threat & coming back to ourselves & others. Resilience & safety - the bookends of a healthy ANS. When your ANS gets overwhelmed & goes too much 'on' or 'off' line, you are stuck. You can get beyond the limits of rational brain mindset & restore connection, joy, authencity & self confidence.